r/mildlyinfuriating • u/stillnotnap • 4h ago
texting my mother
was out running errands and she texted me; simply was asking what kind of butter and sour bc team…this is the entire conversation
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u/DavePeesThePool 3h ago
So just get whatever brand/kind/size you want since she won't specify.
If you get home and it's not what she wanted, that's on her.
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u/HereToShitpost 3h ago
If it’s not what she wanted, give her a thumbs up
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u/TrashPandaDuel 3h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/JwjBy94VzDd6
Like this though while eating what she made for dinner! 😂
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u/bobbyturkelino 2h ago
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u/MechanicalTurkish 2h ago
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u/VegetableJelly 1h ago
OMFG the Mr. Bean movie was my fave movie growing up & this scene is so hilarious. Me and my late brother used to quote scenes & always say “Bean” super pronounced like he does. Thank you for posting this gif dude 🫶 Gonna watch it again to relive those memories. He passed a year ago on the 11th so it’s been rough but sometimes all it takes is a random Mr. Bean gif to remind you of the good times get you through it lol
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u/SupernaturalPumpkin 58m ago
My favourite is when he shows the painting to the other guy (forgotten his name) and he's screaming bloody murder and trying to basically squeeze himself out the tiny window in horror.
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u/Unlucky-Economy7804 51m ago
Sorry for your loss. Glad you have some Bean to help remind you of good times. I was planning on having "coffee with my grandpa" tomorrow morning (I've got some ashes in a small urn). Maybe I'll watch Monty Python and the Holy Grail too. He got a real kick out of it.
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u/Onetruegracie 3h ago
I bet shes been buying the same brand the entire time theyve lived together, he should know what brand they usually get... or just ya know buy whatever.
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u/theSchrodingerHat 3h ago
Yeah, she’s texting his dad right now that she’s mildly frustrated because he’s been eating the same brand and style his entire life, and now he’s suddenly unsure and needs direction.
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u/ichosethis 3h ago
I know more than a few people that "always" do something one way until suddenly they've always done it a different way. Always ate store brand sour cream but they were sold out so they got Daisy once 3 weeks ago and now that's the kind they "always" get. How do you not know that they changed it? Why are you acting like this isn't how it's always been? What do you mean, 6 months ago I got mad that you brought home a specific item because they were out of the usual? You're just out to ruin dinner with the way you can't even pay attention to this one thing.
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u/GiraffesAndGin 2h ago
My mom rearranges where things go in the kitchen every once in a while. She'd tell me and my siblings where something went and make a big commotion about it. Then one day, 4 years later, she'll just...move it. Instead of the cabinet next to the stove, it now goes in the corner.
My dad feels like he is losing his mind. Apparently, she's now rearranging more often.
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u/Perceptions-pk 2h ago
My mom will having a running stock in her head of where everything is and then be like it’s right there in the cupboard, right there!
Yes where the eff is right there?!? There’s like 12 cupboards drawers
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u/Horskr 51m ago
My wife's running stock of where everything is is like a superpower.
The funniest one was she was visiting her parents and I needed a paperclip for something, so I texted her asking if she knew if we had any paperclips anywhere.
She was like "Yeah there is one on the ground next to the back right leg of the couch." So I looked, and sure enough there it was. I sent a picture of it and was like, "okay you can't get annoyed ever when I ask you where something is professor x" lol. She said she saw it when vacuuming and had meant to pick it up after.
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u/Laetitian 2h ago
You're rattling old spirits that I've locked in dungeons 12 years of living outside of family homes deep.
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u/AmArschdieRaeuber 2h ago
It's butter and sour cream who tf cares? It's pretty much the same
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u/THEBHR 3h ago
I bet she's computer illiterate and didn't realize OP's first response was from the same person she asked to get the butter and sour cream. Then when OP said "butter and sour cream?", she was like, "Yeah, that's what I want".
She thought it was two different people messaging her. Can almost guarantee it.
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u/glo363 3h ago
I would add, just make sure it's actually butter and not "spread" or some other oil concoction some peope mistake as butter. At least that's what I would interpret it as if it was my mom texting me.
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u/averageatfifa 3h ago
Or get whatever your mother usually buys? Not that hard.
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u/MechEJD 1h ago
Cheese? Yes ask.
Butter, your options are salted or not. Everyone just gets salted unless you're baking. Use your brain.
Sour cream is literally one kind. Store brand or daisy. Get what's cheapest.
Done.
Jesus.
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u/Bitter_Sense_5689 3h ago edited 2h ago
100%. This is what my dad couldn’t understand. You get the type that we have gotten for the past 20 years.
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u/reddiculed 3h ago
Or maybe try getting the kind she usually gets. I think that’s why she wouldn’t answer.
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u/evident_lee 2h ago
Yeah shame on his mom for thinking he would be smart enough to know what kind of butter and sour cream have been in the house his entire life.
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u/MatureUsername69 3h ago
Im just confused why OP needs anything clarified. Butter is butter, sour cream is sour cream, there's not exactly a huge variety to either product. Only place you could maybe fuck up is buying salted vs unsalted butter for baking purposes. As far as I can tell, there's 2 dumb people in this screenshot.
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u/Bitter_Sense_5689 2h ago
The answer is whatever she usually buys. If you need to clarify salted versus unsalted, ask that specifically.
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u/jld2k6 2h ago
My ex once sent her sister out to grab unsalted butter and she came back with salted, so she left with the unsalted butter and returned it and came back with the exact same kind of unsalted butter again lol. She was a huge stoner and thought she didn't need to write it down, especially after messing it up the first time
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u/phdemented 3h ago
Salted vs unsalted is a big difference for butter... I guess you can get low fat sour cream but why would you...
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u/k-xo 3h ago
i was forced to take it back to the store and get the right one
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u/2ChicksAtTheSameTime 2h ago
Yup. So many people here saying "what's the big deal?" or "If you get home and it's not what she wanted, that's on her."
Life is so much more complicated than that.
Clearly OP knows their mom well enough to know that buying whatever will be technically right, but it will just create more commotion once they get home. It won't be like "here's your butter and sour cream, YOU deal with it now" ... it won't be the end of it for them.
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u/Ok-Situation-5522 2h ago
Or just the ones y'all usually buy? I hope you meant that and not a random thing weaponized incompetence style.
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u/maybeRaeMaybeNot 3h ago
Mom probably shops at Aldi and Junior here is making it out to be like there 500 choices.
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u/WendigoCrossing 3h ago
Salted butter and Daisy sour cream it is
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u/ThePuppyIsWinning 3h ago
Daisy, definitely, but if it's Kerrygold, then unsalted butter, otherwise either. (Kerrygold's unsalted is cultured butter and their salted is not, and their cultured butter is more...buttery tasting?)
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u/BareTheBear66 3h ago
Noted. Thank you for the butter rec
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u/ryanvango 2h ago
kerrygold is worth every penny over the other stuff. I pinch every penny I can, but when I need butter, I will splurge for the kerrygold every single time.
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u/rox_underscore 1h ago
I'm the same way with my condiments...I usually will buy most things store brand. But NOT butter, ketchup, mustard, mayonnaise, soy sauce, or Worcestershire. I work too hard to not have a tiny bit of indulgence 😂
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u/Intelligent_Pea_9141 1h ago
The difference between a home cook and a chef is that a chef isn’t afraid to use more (and higher quality) butter
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u/sugaratc 1h ago
Anytime someone asks why restaurant food tastes better, the answer is typically "butter". Add a stick of butter to any recipe and it will make it amazing.
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u/ryanvango 1h ago
foreeel. I've stopped using milk in my fruit loops, I just dump 2 cups of melted butter on there
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u/meagalomaniak 1h ago
Is this post an ad for Kerrygold lol? First time hearing the name and it’s in every other comment haha
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u/ThePuppyIsWinning 1h ago edited 1h ago
lmao! It's just really good stuff, and is the only European style butter I can think of that's available at almost every grocery store. But yeah, lotsa Kerrygold love here. :) (eta: I'm in the U.S.)
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u/One_Preference_2906 3h ago
Just choose any, she would’ve specified if not
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u/Plantparty20 3h ago
That or she assumes OP knows the kind she typically buys that’s always in the fridge
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u/Admins_suck_ballss 2h ago
This combined with not knowing the intricacies of what you use different butters and sour creams for
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u/NightmareJoker2 3h ago
The cheapest kind, for dairy products, cheap is good. It’s all the same from basically the closest farm that way anyway.
Unless you specifically want Irish or from the Swiss alps and it has to be the genuine article for some absurd reason and you want to insist on paying more for that.
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u/Impressive-Sun3742 3h ago
Kerrygold is a superior butter and I won’t be convinced otherwise
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u/ninospizza 3h ago
Yup, to the people saying it’s all the same, they have absolutely no clue.
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u/emergency-snaccs 2h ago
facts. I also recently had to teach my gf that margarine is NOT butter. We're a real butter household. I absolutely insist lol
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u/batnessthefifth 2h ago
Never tried it until I moved in with a bunch of upper middle class people. It really is gold.
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u/nemat0der 3h ago
All butter is absolutely not the same. Cheap butter will fuck up my baking because there’s too much water in it, plus it just doesn’t taste as good on toast.
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u/ratmfreak 3h ago
Except butter and milk, depending on usage: butter for my toast? I’m getting Kerrygold; but for like frying onions or some shit? I’ll take Great Value Sweet Cream, thanks. And ditto for milk.
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u/MsThrilliams 3h ago
Just make sure you know imperial is margarine and not butter as far as cheap butter
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u/NightmareJoker2 3h ago
Does it say butter on the label but isn’t butter? And there’s no class action lawsuit about it? No way.
(I’m German, we don’t have that here. But we have imported Irish Kerrygold, and it’s cheap right now, because they set the price too high the past two years, nobody bought it and it’s going bad by the truck loads, oh, the irony)
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u/MsThrilliams 3h ago
Its in the butter section but not labeled as it. Its in stick form so it looks like what people think of as butter. For me, I started buying real butter for cooking eggs in but would use margarine to save money on other things where it didnt make as much difference.
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u/AICatgirls 3h ago
They're sometimes labeled as "buttery spread". One brand is called, "I can't believe it's not butter". But no, if you read carefully it does not say that these are butter.
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u/DisasterMiserable785 2h ago
That’s his mom. Assuming he lived there most of his life, he knows exactly what brand and size she buys on the regular. Just buy that.
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u/Admirable-Meeting-10 2h ago
Ok but my mom wouldn’t and then be mad when I didn’t get the “right thing” so .. no that’s not accurate
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u/Baddie_Forever-51 3h ago
Before checking comments, I actually thought the emoji was the kind of butter and sour cream. I was confused for awhile there.
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Please help. I'mout of butter.
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u/bat-cillus 3h ago
I don't even know why this gave me the giggles so bad
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u/Wolfblaine 1h ago
Yeah, this was funny af. I do understand why op might be irritated though but mom's is getting whatever is on sale lol
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u/JHSD7 3h ago
She read your text like an affirmation.
You want “Butter and sour cream?”
Thumbs up = yes.
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u/Sailor_Propane 1h ago
Yeah it's like early versions of chatbot that didn't compute previous messages.
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u/PleaseAddSpectres 1h ago
As though "what kind" and "kind of what" didn't even exist in the text chain
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u/vinnygunn 2h ago
The normal kind, it's not that serious man
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u/Trick_Statistician13 1h ago
OP is the mildly infuriating one for not knowing how to buy butter and sour cream
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u/BernieTheDachshund 3h ago
Just regular butter sticks and a basic tub of sour cream. Looks like she doesn't care what brand or she'd specify. I'd say 4 sticks salted butter and a 8 or 16 oz container of sour cream is the norm. If she's your mom you probably see what she usually gets since you see it in her fridge.
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u/HardcoreParkourMike 3h ago
If you don't live with your mom and don't know what kind she would want, then it's understandable. But if you still live at home with her then you should know what kind of butter and sour cream is usually in your fridge, that I'm assuming you eat.
I can tell you from experience that living with someone who's incapable of knowing what stuff we usually buy or just making a decision on their own is infuriating on its own.
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u/lcw32 2h ago
Yeah I agree because sorry the above message would piss me off. The kind you see when you open up the goddamn fridge 15 times a day 🙄. She would've specified if she needed a specific brand or composition.
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u/pandataxi 3h ago
So true! My husband cannot go to the grocery store alone without calling me at least 3 times. Drives me absolutely insane
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u/TiltedLama 3h ago
Are you serious? How hard is it for a (I assume) grown-ass man to read a grocery list? Does he need help to tie his shoes too?
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u/Qaeta 3h ago
Usually this comes as a result of the requestor having specific brand preferences vs the shopper not really caring about brand and just seeing "butter". If the shopper has been burned by bringing, for example, the wrong butter home before, they'll be a lot more paranoid about fucking it up on other items, and need more information to ensure compliance.
Personally, I think if someone cares about brand that much, they should be including that information in the shopping list. My shopping lists always include brand (if I care) in addition to minimum quantity, and I'm the one doing the shopping too. Can't imagine giving someone else a list without that info and then getting mad about what they bring back.
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u/eriffodrol 2h ago
exactly, don't ask for "some" of something and then complain it's not the quantity you didn't specify
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u/Mighty-Lobster 1h ago
If I could up-vote you twice, I would.
This is exactly it.
The eternal argument with my wife is that she won't believe that I don't read minds. For us this isn't specifically about groceries. We both know what groceries to get. But in other contexts, she seems legitimately perplexed that I did not do a thing that she never once asked me to do. What's worse, she seems just as perplexed that she doesn't read minds either. She regularly ignores what I say in English because she imagines that what I really want must something different from what I said.
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u/1453GreatestYearEver 3h ago
One of my friends let it slip that her husband straight up does not know how to wash his clothes. Like he has just never used and has no clue how to operate a washer & dryer. It came up because she was on a work trip for a couple weeks and came back to see he and their kids were wearing week old dirty clothes still.
There are a lot of aggressively incompetent, maladjusted grown-ass adults out there.
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u/jkaan 2h ago
He has access to the internet he can learn.
But I never understand how anyone can be in a relationship with these useless people. Like this would have been a deal-breaker the moment they refused to learn
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u/PomegranateSignal882 1h ago
So many women see the bar lying on the floor and say "this is too high."
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u/JollyMollyMan 2h ago
As someone in the grocery business for 10 years… You don’t wanna know. The amount of grown men that have seemingly never been in a grocery store especially the produce section is INSANE. Not knowing what green onions or a zucchini is. I get a lot of “is this guy serious?” questions.
Go easy on em though. Most dudes I’ve ran into that are obviously not the usual shopper are trying their best and want to be right. Some legitimately stressed out. Sometimes they are so noticeably stressed and confused I tell them “just give me the list I gotchu” then do it myself.
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u/Seaman_First_Class 3h ago
Who writes brands on grocery lists?
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u/Particular_Title42 2h ago
I write the brand when it matters. If I don't write a brand, it doesn't matter.
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u/Wrong_Mango4822 3h ago
I don't understand why women keep marrying men like this. We don't need to deal with men who dont even care to remember their own fucking refrigerator contents.
I'll throw it out there and say, this isnt the only thing he doesnt care to remember.
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u/Qaeta 3h ago
I'm gonna be honest, I live alone and I could not tell you what brand of butter is in my fridge right now, I'd have to go check. That said, I typically just buy whatever is cheapest. That said, without the context of what she is using the butter for, still a valid question. Salted vs Unsalted is a pretty big deal depending on usage.
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u/steven_dev42 2h ago
I don’t know the name of the brand of butter I have but I definitely know what it looks like and could pick it out in a store
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u/Forever-inexaustabl 3h ago
I’m curious if subconsciously he / she will buy the brands their mom uses. They should know from basic observations well visiting her as well.
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u/EloquentlyMellow 2h ago
This is the answer. I’m not getting the “I don’t understand your text” vibes here. I’m getting “you’re an adult in this household who consumes butter and sour cream, use your brain” vibes. A passive aggressive queen
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u/Do_I_Need_Pants 2h ago
Right. I am surprised I had to scroll so far to get a reasonable response. Like you should know the brand preference, assuming you’ve lived with your family your whole life (or at least 18 years).
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u/oobey 3h ago
Some people want others to lead them by the nose through absolutely every single thing they do.
It's terrible.
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u/Maniacal-Blueberry 2h ago
It depends. Like we have two types of butter that we use in our house. If someone told me to get butter because we're out, I'd want to know both? Or just a specific one? I don't want to get two of the same one and we're still out of the other.
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u/TarzanKitty 4h ago
I pound of butter and a container of sour cream doesn’t seem that difficult to me.
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u/Crayzeemike 40m ago
I’m thinking more along the lines of salted or unsalted butter and what size container of sour cream. Though if OP lives with their mother they should probably know what she normally gets
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u/cubanocoochie 3h ago
Buy Irish Butter, trust me, that kerrygold stuff is the best thing you'll ever get
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u/23Windy1City33 3h ago
Average Reddit post🤣🤣
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u/Doctor_Killshot 2h ago
“How do I navigate this benign social situation???”
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u/Fuckthegopers 2h ago
"she wants two simple dairy products? Now I'm infuriated!"
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u/CoffeeExtraCream 3h ago
What do you normally see in your house? That kind.
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u/Salt-Library4330 2h ago
My wife keeps salted, unsalted and spreadable butter in the fridge… I would default to the spread though cause I’m my own man
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u/Snip3 1h ago
I think if someone's asking for butter and doesn't specify you should get unsalted sticks because they're the most versatile
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u/RavenReisinger 3h ago
IF you live with her, you should already know the answers to this question..
If not, dealer's choice and if she's unhappy.. that's on her.
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u/bindersweat 3h ago
you cant pick out your own butter and sour cream?
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u/sierrabravo1984 this is not yellow damn it! 3h ago
Some people are weirdly picky about that. I'll use whatever butter, my wife will only eat land o lakes "because it tastes better.". Tastes the same to me.
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u/baby_armadillo 3h ago
When you live with someone picky, however, you know what they’re picky about. I bet if your wife asked you to pick up butter, you would know exactly what butter to grab.
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u/jocularnelipot 3h ago
This is exactly it. Presuming the person is picky AND ALSO lax about specifying is so wild to me. If they’re picky, either you should absolutely know already, or they would have specified when they gave the request. Otherwise, it can be assumed you should know or it doesn’t matter, and in either case freaking try, as an assumably capable human.
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u/TarzanKitty 3h ago
This kid is old enough to drive. They have spent at least 16 years going into their mother’s fridge, multiple times per day. If mom was weirdly picky. OP would probably be aware of that.
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u/Useful-Space-Ranger 3h ago
Yes, my husband is also very particular about his sour cream. I'm a generic girl, but he has to have daisy
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u/solkaras 3h ago
God I went to the store once to get myself something and my dad asked me to get chicken pot pies. Never said what kind, so I grabbed one that looked good... and he got pissy at me about it. Be specific then, asshole.
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u/Alternative-Sail-453 1h ago
its your house, what does the butter and sour cream usually look like that sits in your refrigerator? Buy those
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u/pacificjunction 2h ago
I mean, I wouldn’t feel the need to specify which kind either were you born yesterday OP?
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u/nitro_cold_brew 3h ago edited 3h ago
If you’re old enough to fetch groceries, you’re old enough to notice what’s been in your fridge your whole life
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u/D-R-Meon 3h ago
I work in IT and this is exactly what it's like to ask someone basic questions about one-sentence tickets like "need password reset" or "need WiFi connection fixed for remote location".
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u/fourbutthick 2h ago
I think your mom’s right. You just needed to get a pack of the store brand butter salted or unsalted and a tub of plain sour cream. She gave you the thumbs up meaning you can do this dumbass.
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u/Actual_Attempt_337 3h ago
I think she thought you were confirming and forgot she asked a question 😂 sounds like a slow moment. Next time, I’d ask specifically “what kind of butter and sour cream do you want?”
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u/Fancypancexx 2h ago
There really isn't a "kind" typically. If your family typically uses stick butter then just get that. If I want something low-fat or sugar free I would probably specify that. Asking what kind shouldn't have short-circuited your mom though
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u/Small_Dong_214 2h ago
OP has a dependent personality disorder (DPD) and mom is obviously allowing her grown child to utilize critical thinking skills to make the final decision on what kind of butter and SC.
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u/freckyfresh 2h ago
Tbh I think it’s also mildly infuriating that you asked what kind? But yeah a thumbs up emoji response is always top tier infuriating
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u/Lawrence3s 3h ago
If your mom usually prefers specific brand of products, you were in the right to ask and she should've answered you. But if she never cared, you deserved the flames in the comments lol, just get whatever brands.
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u/Emotional_r 3h ago
you asked a dumb question and your mom answered accordingly. this is on you 🤣
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u/Routine_Ad_3945 2h ago
If we get the same brand every time we grocery shop. Why would you change it.
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u/Pikachu250 3h ago
My mom uses voice to text for every single thing and doesn't realize her texts are fully incomprehensible until she's getting a ton of messages asking if she's having a stroke