So.. I (22F) and my boyfriend (23F) were going for a dinner in a restaurant that he works at as a pastry chef. I ordered a Caesar tortilla, and, after 45 of waiting, recieved a Caesar salad. I said to him thatās not what I have ordered, and he told me to wait, and that he will go to the kitchen and make me a tortilla.
After a few minutes, he came back with the plate. It was just the previously made salad stuffed in the tortilla (the crispy breadcrumbs from the salad were inside). I told him that I am not going to eat that, because that is not what I ordered. He told me that thatās basically the same thing and that I should just eat it. But, itās not the same thing. I especially wanted the tortilla because of the crispy bacon and the cheese that melts inside, but in the salad there are just thin slices that I donāt even like the taste of.
He told me that the kitchen will close soon (when I ordered it was 9pm, kitchen closes at 11, and the restaurant at 12) and that I should just eat it (because I was complaining for the last 3-4 hours that I am starving). I told him that that is not the point, and that we can just go somewhere else to eat. He ended up telling his colleague (the waitress) to take it of the bill and we went to a fast food place to eat.
He ended up being mad because I caused a scene and made him ashamed in front of his colleagues. Mind you, I am the quiet type, so I have just told him that I wonāt eat that, and than he talked to his colleague. Soo.. Am I the asshole for hot just eating something that I didnāt order?
EDIT: more context:
It went down like this: I told the waitress: ,,Excuse me, but Iāve ordered the tortillaā She seemed annoyed, but said: ,,Oh, okay, we will make itā.
My boyfriend than told me to wait and went down there to make me a tortilla. When he came back with the dish, I told him that I do not wanna eat the salad stuffed in the tortilla, and that it is not important anymore, that we can just go anywhere else to eat (in a normal tone, I really wasnāt mad, just hungry). He told me: ,,Just eat it.ā I refused, he then called the waitress and told her to take it off the bill. We left, I ate somewhere else.
He told me that I have embarrassed him, because him telling his colleague to take it off the bill is ācausing a sceneā. Thatās the whole story. He had been working there for a few months, and he got the job because my dadās good friend is the co-owner.
